"The secret of change is to focus your energy not on fighting the old but BUILDING the new"

What do i need in order to be happy, peaceful, content? What is it that i lack and what can I do to fill the space?

i need to feel that i BELONG, that i have a place in the world. i need to know what it is, who it is, where it is. without a sense of belonging, i feel lost and empty; hopeless and purposeless.

What is my place?

Where is my place?

Who is my place?

More thoughts:

"Don't chase people, attract them. Be myself. Those who belong in my life will come and stay. just do my thing."

So hard to do, especially if, like me, you have a codependent nature, which causes a lot of grief. i think that self-actualization is the remedy to codependence. this is what i learned so far in my life. for example, focusing on things that make you happy, things that you need to accomplish, focusing on healing so you can feel better even without others' validation.

i recognize that i am projecting but since i am not speaking to anyone in particular i will let myself project. Besides, this is the human condition and i think at least most of my readers will be human.